Wednesday, April 25, 2018

If You Are in Awe of the Duchess of Cambridge, You Don’t Know Modern Birth

CNN’s AJ Willingham wrote on April 23rd about the “Awe” expressed by so many in the fact that Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge, walked out of the hospital 7 hours after giving birth to her third child.  The Duchess has done this sort of thing twice before, and it seemed so . . . magical . . . mythical . . . unmodern to so many commentators, both women and men.

Now yes, as Ms. Willingham points out the Duchess has a great many advantages – from ambulances and police escorts and on-call doctors; to stylists and nannies – that the vast majority of women lack.  Catherine has also had a great many challenges in all her pregnancies, as she battled through bouts of “hyperemises gravidarium during the early stages of all three of her pregnancies. The condition causes severe nausea and vomiting, and can pose serious health risks.” Yes, child birth can be exhausting and yes, three kids into my own marriage and I can assure you it’s sometimes messy.

But where Ms. Willingham gets it wrong – as do far too many people in today’s world (including rafts of expectant mothers) - is that the challenges of birth itself is some sort of debilitating CONDITION that must be treated or alleviated. Instead, understood properly and prepared for with gusto, you really can arrive at a childbirth experience that gets you out of the hospital in a red dress looking like you just won an award.  Which you did.  By giving birth.

To understand how we got here, you have to look at how medicine is practiced in the “Western” world – and more specifically in the US.  Just a glance at the terminology that is associated with birth in most medical settings is a serious clue – American medicine speaks of birth as “labor” wherein you can get medication for “relief” of “pain.” Labor is “induced” as an “intervention.” Doctors demand the “right” to monitor women and their babies with often restrictive ultrasound harnesses – despite a growing body of evidence that said monitoring actually increases anxiety in mothers, slows the birth process, and increases the occurrence of C-Sections (Which are major, painful and invasive surgeries). At one time many woman even sought out drug cocktails called Twilight Sleep to medically induce amnesia so as to forget the challenges of birth.

And yet . . . many women – like my wife – choose to take control of their birth experience just as they take control of their reproductive rights, their careers, their finances and their relationships.  They increasingly choose – as we did – to birth with a midwife or in a birth center away from a hospital so that birth can be the natural, empowering experience it has always been.  In that regard the Duchess is well ahead of the game:

Though still a relative novelty in the U.S., midwife-led maternity care is the norm in other developed countries, including most of Europe.* In England, for example, midwives are the lead care providers at more than half of all births. (There, midwife care is considered fit even for royalty; last month Kate Middleton gave birth to her daughter Charlotte under the care of two midwives.) “In England, what they say is, ‘Every mother deserves a midwife, and some need an obstetrician, too,’” Declercq says.

In addition many pregnant woman are taking advantage of things like Hypnobabies (which we used twice), a national program that, through meditation-like practices, exercises in visualization, and practice between the woman and her partner – aim to transform both the woman’s birth experience AND her perceptions. These approaches don’t take away any of the physical stress in the pregnant woman’s body.  They do, however, better prepare a woman to thrive in the birth experience and emerge just as the Duchess did.

So go ahead, be in awe.  But know that as a woman – or the birth or life partner of a woman – you too can achieve a similar outcome when you birth.  And that means you can emerge from the hospital 7 hours later in a red dress (thankfully without the cameras) to go do the important work of raising good humans.

Tuesday, February 7, 2017

How can the State get it right, when Congress gets it so wrong?

I'm no fan of single party control of the three branches of government.  I have always been a fan of cross-aisle compromise.  so it was neat to see today that the Mississippi State Senate – led by many Republican senators – voted unanimously on Senate Bill 2634, which creates a special trust fund for the total of $750 million Mississippi will receive over the next 15 years for economic damages from the Deepwater Horizon disaster than spewed millions of gallons of oil into the Gulf of Mexico. That trust fund will put the money back into the coast where the damage occurred, and where those funds rightfully belong.  They could have snarfed the funds up for general state use, but wisely decided not to.

At the same time, Congressman Steve Pallazzo - whose District covers the Gulf coast - is  co-sponsoring H.R.861 - to terminate the Environmental Protection Agency. Those $750 Million would not have come to Mississippi to make right this terrible wrong without the yeoman work of the federal employees of the EPA, NOAA, and the Coast Guard.  Terminating the very agency that helped secure this settlement, that helped make Mississippi whole again, is immoral because it creates a real danger that when the next disaster strikes, Mississippians will be unprotected and left to fend for themselves.  BP did not pay up out of the goodness of its collective heart – it paid because the EPA worked tirelessly to make sure that the company was held accountable for its wrong.
You really have to wonder who the guy is actually representing, given his state colleagues willingness to do the right thing with the hard work of the very agency he wants to terminate.

Friday, January 27, 2017

A "YUGE" Victory still creates the Biggest Looser - Now will he hear "You're Fired!"

President Trump likes to talk about his immense win - he even did so in an exclusive interview with ABC. Problem is the numbers don't add up.

There are around 200,081,377 registered voters in the US. The best statistics available show that  138,884,643 actually voted.  the vote totals for the Presidential race broke  65,844,610 for Clinton and 62,979,636 for Trump. Which means that 69% of registered voters went to the polls.  Of course, if you look at people eligible to vote, regardless of registration status, the number of total voters drops to 60%.

But lets stick with the 69% number - of that number, Clinton voter make up 47.4% of those who went to the polls, or 33% of registered voters.  Trump won slightly less, or 31.4%.  But if you add the Clinton votes, the third party candidates, and those who did not vote, Trump LOST bigly, since 69.6% of registered voters either supported someone else or no one at all.

So, friends and neighbors, the next time the President talks about all his support, just remember that roughly 70% of the people who could legally walk into a voting booth on election day didn't want him in the White House. That's no mandate, and anyone who tells you otherwise, including the principal resident of 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue - is lying.  YUGELY.

Thursday, January 26, 2017

An Open Letter to Donald Trump Supporters

I get it.  You have been lied to so long, ignored so long, and watched too many people who said they were in your corner fail to come to your defense.  You look around your towns and see people who don't look like you doing jobs your neighbors used to do; you see those same neighbors addicted to drugs, living in despair, and devoid of hope.  You see an array of cultural and economic forces you don't understand driving changes you can't control toward a future you fear.  And you see pointy headed "elites" like me whom you believe have never lived your life telling you what to believe, even when their "facts" fly in the face of your "common sense."

And so you threw both the biggest Hail Mary pass and upraised middle finger you could at the political system.  Enough of you voted in enough of the right places for Donald Trump that he now sits in the White House.  Some of you feel vindicated because he made it.  Many of you want him to succeed even if you took him "seriously but not literally," and a few of you are now asking if the campaign promises he seems to want to fulfill are really going to come back to hurt you.

I know you won't let me debate this with you on "facts." Both because you don't trust me to tell you the truth because of my politics and my employment as a public servant, and because your support of him wasn't really about facts anyway. As one West Virginia coal miner recently put it - its about the look of the man and what he might make people think.

So since we don't yet trust each other on facts, lets take a leap of faith.  Many (though certainly not all) of you identify as Christians - I do too.  And as such we have accepted a call to follow Christ's teachings.  All of them - no matter how hard, how unorthodox, or how much they fly in the face of our common sense.  And Scripture has two powerful teachings that should be our guides right now.  First, there is the parable of the Good Samaritan in Luke 10:25-37:

25 On one occasion an expert in the law stood up to test Jesus. “Teacher,” he asked, “what must I do to inherit eternal life?”
26 “What is written in the Law?” he replied. “How do you read it?”
27 He answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’[a]; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b]
28 “You have answered correctly,” Jesus replied. “Do this and you will live.”
29 But he wanted to justify himself, so he asked Jesus, “And who is my neighbor?”
30 In reply Jesus said: “A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, when he was attacked by robbers. They stripped him of his clothes, beat him and went away, leaving him half dead. 31 A priest happened to be going down the same road, and when he saw the man, he passed by on the other side. 32 So too, a Levite, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. 33 But a Samaritan, as he traveled, came where the man was; and when he saw him, he took pity on him. 34 He went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he put the man on his own donkey, brought him to an inn and took care of him. 35 The next day he took out two denarii[c] and gave them to the innkeeper. ‘Look after him,’ he said, ‘and when I return, I will reimburse you for any extra expense you may have.’
36 “Which of these three do you think was a neighbor to the man who fell into the hands of robbers?”
37 The expert in the law replied, “The one who had mercy on him.”
Jesus told him, “Go and do likewise.”
Now it should not require repeating, but Christ was telling us that the Samaritan - the non believer - acted with the most mercy and compassion, and that we who follow Jesus should "go and do likewise."  Its probably no coincidence that the Samaria of ancient times is in the West Bank, an area now controlled (at least in name) by the Palestinian Authority.  But more to the point, if Christ is telling us a non-believer can be more compassionate then we are - if indeed that non believer's example is for us to follow - then what does it say that today we wish to keep out, kick out, denigrate and discriminate against the "non-believers" of the Islamic faith?  How can we as Christians possibly square support for President Trump with  Christ's teaching that others besides ourselves can show us greater compassion and love then we ourselves show?  And why in the world would we seek to keep out such people, and thus break from what Our Lord has shown us so clearly?

But, you will counter, Islamic terrorists have attacked the US.  They have fought us on the battle fields.  We will not be "safe" if we let them in.  My blunt reply is this - did not Christ also command us in Matthew 5:39 "But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also."  Here's where those pesky facts have to be considered as well - you are as likely to die crushed under your own TV or dresser as you are to be killed by a terrorist.

More to the point however, when we give in to our fears of those who do not look like us, or sound like us or act like us, we are breaking Christ's second greatest commandment found in Matthew 22:36-40:

36 “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’[a] 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b] 40 All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”
We cannot demonstrate love for our neighbors if we throw them out of our bakeries for the simple act of wanting to marry their partners.  We can not love our neighbors if the color of their skin makes them "inferior" to us. We can not love our neighbors if we allow our "leaders" to persist in lying to use about everything in the world around us just because their egos are fragile and they fear the people they have been elected to lead. 

You want hope.  You want respect.  You deserve dignity.  I get it.  And my Christian pledge to you is that you and I can and will seek those things for you together.  But not with this man. His rise will not lift you, and if you push me away, then I can not carry you when you stumble, as the Samaritan did for the man accosted by robbers.

Friday, September 30, 2016

The State of Republican Affairs

What does it say about the Republican Party that the Cato Institute - which leans hard right and libertarian - is calling out the Reoublican nominee for lying about the connection between illegal immigrants and crime? And here's the spoiler - Cato says immigrants of all stripes make us safer as a nation.

What does it say about rank and file Republicans backing that nominee that they don't or won't care about being lied to again?

And when will Republican leaders finally acknowledge that the lack of caring about this lie, about all the lies, is a direct result of 4 plus decades of xenophobic, white makes centric, racist oligarchical dog whistle politics?

Read the Cato reports here:

Tuesday, July 26, 2016

Hillary makes history - but is it enough?

Bernie Sanders graciously bowed out. Hillary Clinton becomes the first woman nominated by a major political party to be President. Debbie Wasserman-Schultz is out (finally). But with so many Americans so upset about so much - and feeling so disconnected - will it be enough? Time will tell, but democrats inability (or unwillingness) to connect to voters emotionally is still Hillary's Achilles heel.

Tuesday, January 12, 2016

Really Martha Raditz? The MSM shills for the military industrial complex again.

In tonight's State of Union speech, President Obama rightly noted that while ISIL certainly represents a threat to American citizens but not an existential threat to the US. While it seems to many to be a wildly inaccurate statement, the reality is that ISIL can not destroy the US unless we as a nation cower before them.

Yet ABC's Martha Raditz picked up the banner of war and dismissed the President's assertions as everything but fiction.

And that is the core of the problem - Anerica has the ability to defeat ISIL and yet our media is told to fear them as if the  very Constitution itself would be torn asunder if we don't completely destroy ISIL right now.

Frankly, if we look to history we see that quiet, consistent ignoring of such ignorant apostates usually forces them to go away. We would also know that a failed state - be it Syria, Iraq, Sudan, Lybis, or Russia - is not always the job of the US to fix.

Too bad the MSM isn't sophisticated enough to lead us there. For Shame.